Are you always second guessing yourself? Do you make plans in your head but before you can even get to work on it, you talk yourself out of it? Let’s talk.
Sometimes our internal dialogue, the conversation we have with ourselves holds us back and we don’t realize it.
It is more than ok to be scared, apprehensive or nervous about something. In some cases, it is completely natural. I mean, starting a business, for example, is scary. Going back to school after a long break, is scary. Going on a date (if you have been single for a while) or starting a relationship can be nerve wrecking making you nervous.
However, scary does not mean unattainable. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. Being apprehensive shouldn’t mean you don’t take risks.
There is always going to be a what if. What if I do go out on a limb? What if they reject me? What if they laugh? What if I don’t have what it takes? What if I don’t make it? What if I fail? What if I don’t, and I succeed!
Use your fears to your advantage.
Use your apprehension to your advantage.
Here is what you can do. For all the risks you are aware of- instead of them being counterproductive, use them to plan ahead for the pitfalls you anticipate. That’s the key- prepare for it. Don’t allow the ‘what if” to hold you back.
So, what if you do _______ (fill in the blank). What if you win? What if you succeed? What if it prospers or grows? Be positive. Don’t stop yourself before you start.
Change your mindset to one of which you tell yourself you are aware of the risks. HOWEVER, you can still accomplish what you want to do. I am not asking you to deny your thoughts or feelings. I am asking you to acknowledge the thought and feeling and then make a choice to choose something different.
Now instead of asking yourself – What have you got to lose? Ask yourself – What could you gain? Bet on yourself. Have confidence in yourself. You can do whatever it is that you want to do with hard work. Don’t second guess yourself.
Until next time…