Another short note for you. Something to keep in mind.
In life, you will come across people who are easily intimidated and instead of them addressing THEIR insecurities they may try to get you to change. Or worse, they will try to make you feel bad about your strengths. I find it disheartening how people will take their insecurities and put them on another person. I’ve witnessed it happen to others and I’ve experienced it myself. It’s not fun 😞.
At the time, when I was experiencing this, I felt like there was really something wrong with me, but eventually I came to the realization it wasn’t. I was being who I am as God made me to be and I was experiencing someone’s negative projection. Let me tell you it was awful.
I realize that you can’t please everyone – nor should you try.
Can you relate to these labels? Being called bossy when you are actually a strong leader. Or, maybe being called difficult, when you are simply brave enough to speak the hard truth. There are plenty of labels out there. 🤷🏽♀️
We all have insecurities and we all have room to grow. That is true without question and I will never dispute anyone on that. No one is perfect either. I also want to be clear that I am not talking about constructive criticism, which is something we all need. I learned to be aware of the difference between critical negative projection and constructive criticism. One stems from insecurities and the other stems from a place of love or concern with the desire to see you grow and evolve. But no one has the right to make you feel less than yourself just because they don’t feel like their optimal selves! That’s so important – you don’t need to inherit the burden of another person’s stress.
My Loving Suggestions
1. Don’t allow someone else’s insecurities to become yours.
2. Don’t dim your light or make yourself small.
3. Let them adjust. You are just fine.
4. Don’t limit your happiness for others.
5. Understand the difference between critical negative projection and constructive criticism.
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Until next time.
Be Polished. Be Alluring. Be Elegant. Be You.
Be Unapologetically You.