Do You Need to Update Your Self-Care Methods?

With all that is going on in the world and in our communities, your methods of self-care and restoration may need adjusting.  What worked perfectly before may not work so well now as things in our lives has drastically changed.  That is ok. 

Keeping in tune with our senses, because we are human beings, you must be attuned to what you let in, how much you let in and for how long.  We don’t want to bury our heads in the sand because it is important to address the issues that affect us, but we have to protect our emotional selves. 

To prevent burnout and mental exhaustion, it’s important to have outlets.  💥Plural- OUTLETS💥.  In many instances, we need more than one way to express ourselves and to release stress in order to live a balanced life.

For so many people it is a struggle because we simply don’t know how to deal with the additional stresses of life.  Here are some great inexpensive ways to help:

Guided Meditation

YouTube has a plethora of free guided meditations available.  Simply do a search a try out a few to see which one works best for you.  Here are a couple I have used and highly recommend:

Calming Anxiety Guided Meditation

Clear The Clutter of Your Mind Guided Meditation

The Daily Calm 10 Minute Mindfulness Meditation

4-7-8 Breathing

I wrote an article a few weeks back on 4-7-8 breathing.  If you missed it you can read it here.   There are also guided 4-7-8 breathing sessions on YouTube.  Here are two to get you started, check them out here:

 4-7-8 Dr. Weil Video

 4-7-8 Breathing Exercise


Sometimes just getting your feelings out on paper in a safe space helps.  You don’t need a fancy notebook (unless you just want it). All you’ll need is some plain paper, a pen and a place to keep your written thoughts secure. 📒✏️💭


I am not suggesting you go out and get a gym membership or revisit your old gym.  I am suggesting that you get blood flowing every day and move.  Our bodies need some sort of purposeful movement every day.  For some that may mean the gym.  Others may decide to lift weights at home. Take a walk.  Stretch your muscles.  Many movements are quite simple and can be done either at home or at the local park. Again YouTube has all types of health and fitness videos for all levels of fitness! 🧘🏾‍♀️👟🚲🏀

Keep in mind that if you find you are still struggling to cope, need someone to talk to or consistently feel overwhelmed please reach out to a professional mental health counselor. There is only one you and you must take care of yourself – mind, body and soul. 

Until next time…

30 Days of Inspiration

2 April – Day Two

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Hello lovely people.  Today’s inspiration is strictly internal.   I’m talking about mental health.  We are all stressed to some level because we are certainly not living a life we are accustomed to, as it is a very uncertain time. 

If you are in the situation to be home, sheltering in place, or participating in social distancing perhaps this is an opportune time to refresh and recharge.  Maybe 👍🏾. Maybe not 👎🏾.

As we know, not everyone is will have the luxury to be home resting, working on long lost home projects or binge-watching Netflix 😎.  We probably have literally hundreds of thousands who must leave their homes every day.  For those who are considered essential personnel…our nurses, doctors, police officers, firefighters, mail delivery, custodial workers, truck drivers, sanitation engineers, food delivery workers, even some school personnel we thank you for your sacrifice and dedication to your profession.  I know that many of you do not have what you need to adequately protect yourselves- that in itself is highly stressful.  I am not a medical professional; however, I urge you to consider temporarily decompressing the moment the opportunity presents itself.  Please take of your mental as well as physical self the best way you are able to, considering the circumstances.

Then there are others thinking about how you and your family will eat- especially if you have been laid off or furloughed.  Thinking about if your small business will survive once things return to normal. Thinking about how you will pay the mortgage, car note, or utilities. Not to mention all the newly widowed, the caretakers or families now without a provider or loved one who has died from this virus.    

Here are some ideas to help you temporarily decompress and give your mind an opportunity to escape for a minute:

– read that book you’ve been meaning to read
– choose a book that sparks your interest and finish it
– unplug from any news source for a while to refresh and refocus your mind on something positive
– consider listening to an audiobook or podcast
– open your window and take a few deep breaths a few times a day
– write a few personal goals that are long term (personal, professional, spiritual, social) then make a flexible plan on how you can accomplish it
– meditate, stretch or do yoga
– journal
– listen to relaxing sounds (try the calm app, try googling sound therapy, or relaxing sounds on YouTube)
– rest
Decompress your mind and soul
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Yes.  I said rest.  Some of you were running nonstop before this virus struck.  If this is you, and you now have an opportunity to get some rest- do that.   However, when you are rested don’t forget this can be a great time to do the things you didn’t have time to do previously.  Do whatever you need to do to be ok and get through this challenging time!

At the end of the day take care of your mind.  If all you can think of right now is today, then do that✌🏾🧘🏾‍♀️.  Don’t beat yourself up because you are comparing your mental state and journey to others.  Wherever you are, whatever your situation, do what is right for you, but do something to decompress and give your mind a rest.  Until tomorrow…..

30 Days of Inspiration

🧘🏾‍♀‍30 days of Inspiration in April

I’ve decided to dedicate the next thirty days to inspiring others (and by default inspiring myself 🧘🏾‍♀‍). Inspiration in self-care, beauty, mental health, and physical exercise.

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1 April -Day One

Make a plan to be your best you.  As we stroll through social media, we see so many people encouraging others with options on how to improve their bodies.   These individuals look physically fit and healthy.  It is absolutely amazing what the body can do.   What you are looking at is often a long process that has come to fruition and requires lots of maintenance and dedication.   Not to mention the setbacks and failed attempts that we just don’t see.  Trust me- they’re there.  If you had a healthy body before you can get it again.  If you are looking to get healthy – it is never too late.

Set a tangible goal- short term- for this month only. Let’s not set ourselves up for failure or disappointment because we are trying to bite off too big a chunk.  It’s the small stuff, piece by piece, day by day that will ensure we reach our goal or at least come really close to it.  Our goals are as individual as we are as people so I can’t tell you what your goals should be.  However, there is something that we must all be doing to keep fit.  No matter your fitness level we all must move each day-get the heart pumping and blood flowing.  To stop the spread of Coronavirus, we are under a stay at home order.  Our gyms are closed and for good reason.  But a brisk walk, jog, or run around the block can help you maintain or improve your fitness level until things get back to normal.  The last thing we want is to increase the amount we eat (including all the delicious snacks and drinks) without balancing it with some sort of exercise. 

As you follow your personal fitness plan, app (Gold’s Gym has a great app that I’m following), or favorite Instagram fitness pro- remember to take it in small steps and do not get discouraged.  Your goal is for you.  Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.  Work toward being your best you!